If a woman hides her designer bags and cuts the price tags off new so called designer regalia, before her boyfriend, husband or other half has seen the price, how does she know he has a problem with the price and her spending power??
Any educated man worth his salt should not feel emasculated simply because the memsahib earns more than he does (unless she bitch-slaps him every morning as well).

Ade, London,

My wife earns more than me and is a manager.
My boss is female, her deputy is female
I work in an office of 40 women and 3 men.
I frikkin love it!!

Phill Barlow, Wirral, England

I think these men are correct to run. Women who are high wage earners and who are the main bread-winner in a relationship will use that fact to control and abuse their male partners in ways no male would ever dare to. Life with them is terrible because they are only focused on being as competitive and as capable "as a man". But they have no compassion or womanly qualities. If I wanted to date a man, I would be gay.

JT, Scottsdale, AZ

Men in general don’t care what women earn. Women, on the other hand, care very much what men earn. Women still want men to pay for everything, which is a holdover from the Leave it to Beaver days and earlier when women were homemakers. They are raised to expect this. Now, women want it both ways. They want to work the same jobs and earn the same as men (actually, they usually earn more — see Warren Farrell). This leads to women who seek men who earn more than men, regardless of their income. So, a woman who earns $150k is going to look for men earning $250k & up. Prof. Hacker is right.

Women claim they want equality, but they really don’t. When it comes to courtship and marriage, they want a return to the 1950s. They still want their man earning more than them, they still want him paying for everything. Most logical men find this situation hypocritical and untenable, and increasingly avoid relationships and marriage as a result.

WA, Scottsdale, AZ

I'm a highly educated global travelling male (two degrees and a graduate diploma) and I feel threatened in the presence of women with high incomes.
It's not the high incomes alone which intimidate me. Its the way that intersecst with other factors.
I have been bothered for a couple of decades now that there is distinct discrimination in favor of women in many spheres of life and decades of huge tolerance from women for media displays of demonising derogatory characterization of men. Women have been conspicously unsupportive of the stand against unfair brickbats against men for as long as I can recall. I've also never yet met a woman who appeared to respect and admire her boyfriend's / spouse's decision to down-shift and get a life rather than be a salary man / wgae grunt.
Allot of guys I know are also too busy trying to get equal rights in healthcare, family law and reproductive rights to be bothered with uncomplimentary and worse even harsh women.
MGTOW Men going their own way.

Stephen, Gold Coast, QLD, Australia

It's pretty clear that the men are turned off by these women's personalities. Look at the so-called price-tag-clipping gal (assuming that's not a story). If a man sees a woman buying lots of expensive clothes, he's probably less intimidated by her superior earning power and MORE worried that she's "high maintenance". The guy in Mission Viejo now is stuck being the breadwinner anyway AND having to praise his wife for living off of him. One woman above sneered that she didn't care what men thought (exactly. That may explain why these men aren't excited about footing her bill...)

The men who possess the combination of 1) High income breadwinners and 2) Liberated saps who praise women earning big money to blow on shoes and $5000 handbags, are increasingly rare.

21 year old girls working as receptionists are a hell of a lot less trouble, better looking and MORE appreciative. That's just the way it is... some things will never change...

Mark, Falls Church,, USA/Virginia

Don't know what's wrong with these women: they need to develop some backbone rather than lying about their income. If the man can't deal with your success, he's not worth bothering with anyway. Any intelligent man who is confident and secure in himself won't be threatened by a woman's earning power. I'm sure plenty of men would be only too happy to have women paying the bills to take the social pressure off them!

This has been blown out of proportion by the media, I think. Maybe the real problem is that these women don't have sufficient confidence or pride in their achievements to be honest and upfront. I would be put off by a man who exaggerated his earning power to impress me so I'm sure a man would be put off by a woman who pretended she was an airline steward when she's actually a successful lawyer.

MB, Edinburgh,

Clip the price tags off your clothes? If it is necessary to do that, then it probably means you spend excessive amounts of money, whether a man or a woman. I consider that to be a New York phenomenon - and its not pretty. Salary is a funny measure of self worth, and it paints an illusion. Is a lawyer really better than a car mechanic? There is honour in fixing someone's car. There is not always honour in the process of the law - yet that is often where the money lies. All that glitters is not gold.

Shane, Wellington, NZ

I don't care how much a woman makes. As long as she loves me for my mind, and not my body.......

m.J., Iowa, U.S.A.

We will likely see more and more of this. A terrifying proportion of young males in the U.S. are growing up with no positive male guidance. This results (among other things) in poor school performance. This in turn leaves them with little choice but lower-paying work, especially in an economy where global competition and mass illegal immigration have resulted in far fewer well-paid blue-collar jobs than was once the case. Younger women are getting better educations than younger men and so are making more money.

D.L. Anderson, Crossett, AR/U.S.A.

A completely distorted article. So a tiny percentage of US women earn more than their partners. And some men don't like it. Who cares? Frankly a lot of men don't like women they can't control, they don't like the ones they can either. They just don't like women! What about the global inequity where women are the losers? Sadly, it's far more the case that women earn less than men and that men use their greater economic power to try to dominate the relationship and control the woman. I've also seen the reverse where she earns and he's a lazy user and he STILL tries to dominate her (just not going as far as to get a job) I don't know any men or women who care that much about earning power or status, maybe that's cos I wouldn't want to! I personally don't think it's any of my business what he earns and vice versa! Women should focus on following their own vocations, creating their own financial independence and enjoying their own lives. And stop worrying what men think. Men ditto.

Claire, Bridgwater,

I find women obsessed with money and status. I couldn't care less what a girl does for a living, but the opening gambits from most women seem to be little more than disguised shake-downs of your assets. It doesn't impress.

It's a rare thing to find a girl who's actually interested in you as a person. Most of them are snapped up straight away by grateful men.

rob, london,

When I hear how several of the women interviewed above view men it occurs to me that maybe....possibly.....it isn't their income that is scaring men away "so fast they leave skid marks", but they fact that they are an almighty pain in the backside.

Paul, Esher,

I don't see any point in lying and hiding like I do. Yes, some (actually, a lot of) men have a problem with us so-called career-women. It's quite naive to expect that they will later change their minds about it and suddenly become incredibly proud and supportive. not likely, if a man doesn't like what you do and how much you make then that will only become bigger and bigger problem later in the relationship. or are those women planning to keep pretending for ever?

Miranda, london,

It's unfair - not to mention downright sexist - to say that it's all the men's problem. Women earning more than us upsets our 'hunter instincts'? Well, what if I were to suggest that it upsets women's 'princess instincts'? I've married twice; both times my wife earned more than I did when we were married. Both times I had no problem with this, and in the first marriage my income had risen above hers within a few years. I anticipate the same thing will happen this time around, but trust me - I was never the one with the problem; in both cases the unhappiness came from my wife(/ves) whose upbringing had led them to feel that they needed a husband who'd take care of everything financially.

Julian, London, UK

My girlfriend is far more successful than me, with a staff of several hundred and a substantial budget, but because she works in development and I work in a commercially competitive field I earn more than her. She wants to move to a dreadful warzone in Africa and in theory I'd be happy to follow as I admire her and she quite literally "saves lives". However, I simply can't afford to follow here and I think it will be the end of our relationship.

What would Miranda do? Or indeed these various feminists?

Bill , London,

Most of the problems highlighted in this article come about from the basic life philosophy that money and status define a person. Couple that with a childish level of self-centredness and bingo, you have relatively well-off people who have multiple neuroses about their relationships.
Go and live in the developing world, or do something really useful with your life and these selfish preoccupations will fade into their proper perspective.
Never equate money with success, nor ambition with courage; doing so devalues vast numbers of truly incredible people, and it devalues yourself.

Paul, Cusco, Peru

I've heard it too many times before. Women of today want it all and good luck to them. When they have found their man who doesn't mind have meals bought for him; who is happy to stay at home and look after the kids; who'll be content to clean the house; they'll discover he is old, flabby and boring and will then have an affair with some other male who is younger and most exciting. (This assumes the boring stay-at-home male is the father of the children in the first place. Motherhood is fact; fatherhood is merely speculation!)

The go-get'em types of young women of today are unlikely to stay interested in a man who does the home duties.

NickT, Aldershot,

“I remember wanting to punch him so hard,” said Riley St Clair, a New York executive. “I would feel deeply hurt and insulted if I was dating a guy who would rather sit at home . . . because he couldn’t deal with me [paying all the bills]”.

Two points here:
1) Hillary Clinton's website indicates that there is a gender wage gap. This article proves that there is not.
2) This executive is guilty of thinking of "domestic violence" because her boyfriend does not agree with her. The domestic violence industry should take note. Women are just as, if not more, violent than men.

David, portland,

I have no problem with it. Show me the money baby~

Michael A. Lesniak, Fairfield, IA

I'm married to a stay at home mother of three, but it wasn't always that way. When we married, she earned double what I did. I have always been attracted to success-oriented women. (Runs in the family--my mother is the CEO of a TV Station who makes 3X what my father does. I've never seen him as less masculine, it's just that his job (he's a minister) doesn't pay that well.)
I do not want a mouse but someone with a brain who knows what she wants and how to lead...Mmmmm. My wife and I made a decision for her to stay home to raise our kids, not out of economics, but because she was better at it than I was. We took a substantial cut in pay to make me the primary bread-winner, but I still look at my career as a partnership. Sure, we have different roles, but she is still just as smart and success oriented. She's simply got a different (and really tough!) assignment.

Greg, Mission Viejo, USA / CA

I would be most happy for a woman to pay for diner. Any offers?

Stephen, Kualar Lumpur, Malaysia

Um..... to be honest I'm broke so i DO NOT and have never minded someone else buying the dinner!

In fact, when ever I'm in a relationship I try to split everything 50/50 funny thing is my girlfriend told me outright: "I'm not the independent type. I need a man to look after me." Which translates to a 33/66 split.

So how's that for equality? Or maybe it just says something about Japanese society.

Funny how things work out.

Ben, Narita, Japan

For NotNOW - wow, your post is riddled with feelings, not logic. And I don't know about the family courts where you come from, but, dude, don't even go there.

And Luke - no one likes being lied to, but take it a little easier on women. It often all feels like a no-win situation, after working so hard and doing what feels right. You have no idea how many men turn away after being dumbfounded by the answer to the question, "So, what do you do?" I'm hoping I'll meet one brave enough to be pleased with my response, but for now, I don't hold it against any woman who after repeated rejections plays it down a little. This is an epidemic in our culture, and educated and successful women are trying various ways to cope with it.

V, Tempe, AZ

If men and women trusted each other, women earning more would be OK. But women's personal lives are guided by feelings, not facts. Facts do not change, but feelings do. Men, never give any woman dominion over you, in any form whatsoever. They will destroy you as soon as they change their minds. Family courts are littered with the corpses of trusting men.

NotNOW, R, VA,

Actually, she was sarcastically quoting someone else when she made a reference to "hunter instincts." She wrote a post stating that this article misrepresents her views and she is upset about it. http://feministing.com/archives/007826.html

Joe, chicago, il

i personally would be more offended if i met a woman who was a professional and then found out later she had lied to me about herself. I mean if she will lie about herself to get a man to begin with, where will it stop

Luke Rumfelt, Stanley, NC